How can we create change at scale? – Three key recommendations
- Governments need to put teaching on gender equality and non-violence against women and girls on their national educational curriculum.
- Promote ‘bystander intervention’ programmes that create an environment in which anyone can ‘call out’ or challenge violent behaviours or attitudes – let’s make challenging violence, and the attitudes that lead to it, an ‘everyday responsibility’.
- Find ‘entry points’ to engage with men and boys at an institutional level – for example as prospective fathers, as part of services for prospective parents during pregnancy.
Prevent violence at its source
Introducing the discussion, Sofia Sprechmann, CARE International’s Head of Programmes, said that while the focus of the Summit is on impunity, we should aim not only to reach that but avoid violence taking place in the first place. That means addressing the deep roots in society and requires social change work at the deepest level – and that can’t be done without engaging men and boys.
Innocent Zahinda, leader of the UN Team of Experts on the Rule of Law and Sexual Violence in Conflict, said “accountability, investigations, prosecutions” are very important – but are “often very expensive, and often too late... when the damage has been caused, when sometimes the victim has actually died.” This huge human and financial cost can be avoided by engaging men and boys to prevent sexual violence from happening in the first place.
Breaking the silence
Dr Gary Barker, International Director of Promundo-DC, spoke of breaking the silence around the transmission of violence from one generation to the next. “Between 1 in 5 to half of boys will witness violence against their mother when growing up. We also know that boys who witness this are traumatised by it. The problem is that there is silence around this cycle.”
Innocent Zahinda spoke of the silence around male victims and survivors of sexual violence: “There are tens of thousands of silent victims in the DRC and northern Uganda. Male victims miss out on services, because this issue is actually invisible.”
Changing the discourse
In her Welcome address, Catherine Russell, US Ambassador at Large for Global Women’s Issues, said the gender norms that enable violence are met with silence and tolerated by men: “As fathers, husbands, brothers, friends, community leaders, men have a role to play in speaking out and tackling the problem. In places like Rwanda, men and boys are showing they can be partners in protection and violence prevention. In many instances men are the gatekeepers in communities so they have an incredible opportunity to change attitudes.”
To achieve that, said Gary Barker, we need to challenge the attitudes behind the way we think and talk about masculinity. “Homophobia, power, privilege: these need to be front and centre,” he said. “We know that one of the biggest policing mechanisms for the behaviours of boys and men is homophobia. ‘If you don’t act like this, you are...’ – and fill in the blank. Most of those have to do with ‘You’re not a man’ meaning ‘You’re not straight’. We need to be really careful how we unpack the language, that we question it, that we look at how it’s used.”
“How do we look at the smaller violences as well as the bigger ones, and be part of a community that says it’s not OK?” asked Gary Barker. “Masculinity is good at putting us in a box and saying keep quiet about it. In fact the majority don’t want to use violence, so what can we collectively do to call the appropriate help out?”
The answer is to challenge the culture of impunity “so that the two-thirds of us who don’t use violence speak out when we do see it”. That means not only “making new meanings of manhood and finding those existing versions that preach non-violence and equality” but also acknowledging that we are reinforcing harmful norms by not standing up to them. This is not just one person’s responsibility but everybody’s – an “everyday responsibility”.
Get it on the curriculum
John Crownover, CARE’s Programme Advisor on the Young Men Initiative in the Balkans, said teaching masculinities in schools could “change the rules about how a typical man should be in the community” and “recognise the diversity and the variety of different masculinities”.
Secondary schools provide an entry point to start talking about sexuality at a time when young men are developing their identity and having their first relationships. Despite resistance from some elements of society – such as, for example, from religious communities when this work was put on the national curriculum in Croatia – we still need to push ahead because of the clear, positive outcomes of this approach. He said: “We can see a large social impact if we are start this work from primary school and secondary school.”
Connecting with men and boys
If men and boys are to be agents of change, first we need to connect with them in a way they will understand, said Innocent Zahinda: “In Sri Lanka I will use cricket, in the UK and Brazil I will use football...” Engaging with men and boys means looking for the right entry points. For example, in Africa this might be through the customary systems: “In rural areas men are in charge and are discriminating against women. It’s the clan leader who adjudicates disputes; his son will take over from him. So let’s engage through the customary justice systems, so if men are in charge of their community they can ensure that both women and men are actually protected from sexual violence.”
Working with fathers
Fatherhood is also a good entry point to address male attitudes to women and violence, said Gary Barker. In Brazil, there is a prenatal health protocol for women, so why not have one for men? Men are invited to talk about the added pressure of being a father and providing for a family, and “included in that we do violence screening”. He said: “In as many as 1 in 5 cases violence happens during pregnancy, so it is a moment to screen – this is a moment we can reach men, offering HIV testing, add a few questions to our protocol and talk about violence…”
John Crownover spoke about the importance of working with peer leaders – young men in their early 20s who can be role models “instead of reinforcing some of the gender norms that we are trying to challenge”. These young adult leaders “need to go through a process of their own personal development and reflection, engaging and challenging them rather than reinforcing norms”.
Stephenie Foster, Senior Advisor at the Office of Global Women’s Issues in the US State Department, said it is critically important that at the high policy level, men are talking about this issue: “We need more diverse voices at this level – not only for women leaders but male leaders, for policy makers at national and local levels across the board, to take this on.”
Innocent Zahinda gave the example of a high profile football manager whose team were not doing well and who “said his players were playing like girls". Zahinda said: "This means this issue is quite deep, even in a society like the UK where awareness about this issue is very important.” Stephenie Foster agreed that we need to challenge public figures who talk in this way, in order to “create the environment in which we can do this work”.
As well as its recommendations for strategies that can be used globally to scale up work with men and boys and achieve real impact, the session raised some challenges:
- Social norms that perpetuate gender inequality can be reinforced by women who see efforts to change these norms as challenging their accepted roles in society – how do we engage women on masculinities?
- Laws prohibiting violence may be in place but often they are not enforced – how do we make this a whole of society issue, not just a women’s issue?
- Men can take control of programmes to end sexual violence against women – this reinforces male dominance. How do we engage men without reinforcing patriarchy?
- Male leaders need to champion this issue – how do we engage leaders at a local level who stand to lose out because much of their power is derived from, and is invested in, patriarchal structures and traditions?